No bride deserves a deadbeat bridesmaid in her wedding party. That said, unless the wedding is a Kim and Kanye style affair with all expenses paid, the reality is that being a bridesmaid is often about 30% glamour and 70% hard labor. With the growing interest in DIY and destination weddings, it’s more important than ever for a would-be bride to select her attendants carefully and be realistic with herself and with her potential maids about the demand on everyone’s time and pocketbook. There is a lot more to it than tulle and flowers, and not everyone will be enthusiastic about hot gluing sequins to masons jars for 12+ hours to save you a few bucks.