Did you watch the Emmys last night?
As usual, the red carpet was full of impossibly gorgeous celebrities all spiffed up in their designer tuxedo suits and sweeping gowns. And once again the journalists spent most of the time asking actresses vapid questions about their gowns and manicures and asking actors about their actual Emmy nominations, professional thoughts, and personal opinions. The media is so focused on this superficial nonsense, in fact, that E! rolled out a “clutch cam” to accompany the “mani cam” that they debuted during the Oscars to showcase celebrity manicures. The clutch cam featured a rhinestone-bedazzled rotating platform for the actress to place her clutch as if she were peddling goods on QVC.
Take it from Madonna, she should know. Having just celebrated her 56th birthday a week ago with a 1920s themed soiree, Madonna is pop music’s original Boss Lady. Rarely has history provided us with an example of such unapologetic human determination.
There is no such thing as Boredom.
Boss Ladies don’t do “bored” — they aren’t boring, they don’t suffer from boredom, and they are never bored. It isn’t in the vocabulary. It’s about as real as the Easter bunny. There is no such thing as boredom because a boss lady is just too interesting, too curious, and frankly too damn busy to ever experience the perfectly useless condition of being bored. If you ever meet a woman who allows such filth to part her lips, I suggest that you wash her mouth out with soap promptly. And then direct her to this list for any number of practical solutions to the problem:
Oh. my. goodness.
An emergency button that you press and a bellman materializes before you with a tray of crisp, cold, fizzy champagne? Why yes, I don’t mind if I do. It is Wednesday, after all, which constitutes a mid-week emergency of sorts. We must lift our chins, sit up a little straighter in our ergonomic chairs, take a deep, cleansing breath and fortify ourselves for the remaining 2 week days ahead, right girls? A glass of champagne is just the ticket.
If you really want to impress people and be well-liked, it has nothing to do with taking a perfect selfie or posting a really funny Kanye West meme. Anyone can do that.
If you want to be popular in a meaningful way, all you really need to do is present others with authenticity and your focused attention.
Choosing what we say and how we say it can go a long way to improving the way that we are perceived in both professional and personal relationships. Even something non-verbal like a smile has transformative power on both the person doing it as much as the recipient, so effective communication is not really that mysterious. It just has to do with fine-tuning the ways in which we commonly engage with others, and being a little more purposeful in how we do so.