I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again and again: I have been really lucky to meet amazingly adventurous and ambitious women. I can’t help but think that we get drawn together by magnetic boss lady forces, a force field of mutual curiosity and awe for discovering the world and taking personal risks. These women are not fearless, but they are courageous, and that’s what really matters.
One of the most recent additions to my social circle happened just a little over a year ago in the form of Mahilani Akiona, but I will let her tell you how she came to be in Los Angeles. All I can say is that she is the embodiment of boss lady spirit, and my conversations with her actually fueled the creation of the TLABL blog in the first place.
Having just returned from an epic trip to SE Asia over the new year, Mahilani has passport stamps and spiritual mileage in spades. The last 12+ months of her life have been transformative and eye-opening in a way that only a journey into the unknown can lead to the deepest self-discovery. So who better to provide some inspiration for finding your personal flow in the new year ahead?
Finding Your Flow in 2015
by Mahilani Akiona
I moved to sunny LA just over a year ago from the blustery yet heartfelt, windy city of Chicago. The impetus for the cross continental journey? A deep seated, fiery need to recreate myself.
I left the comforts of a relationship, family, my best friends, a killer apartment, an inspiring yoga studio, a foodies’ mecca, a kush job, and an ever dynamic mover-shaker social life. Why did I do this? I did it in pursuit of the uncomfortable, anxiety laden, joy seeking, exhilarating art of change.
I’d have to say in all of just a year, I’m proud of myself. It’s been an enlightening year, and one which has challenged me to reevaluate, learn and turn myself inside out. I stood on top of the mountain of my biggest fears, and tipped over the edge into the unknown. I confronted a lot of life’s major pivot points all at once. And my life caught me, put me right side up and back onto my feet, with the addition of many lessons one inevitably learns when they dare any kind of trust fall.
I know one thing is certain: no matter the moment, time, or next big decision up ahead, I’m ready to find my flow in 2015! Namaste!
1. Define Your Practice. Know that you have to take 1000% ownership of all of your decisions; where you want to be, who you want be and how you’re going to live your life. All eyes are on you, and the most important set are the ones piercing into yourself. Take the time to answer those questions. Clear your mind and determine what you want to see when you look back on yourself 10, 15, 20 years from now.
2. Embrace Community. Behind most successful people is a crew of talented supporters and mentors. Hold on to those who show up consistently, and be mindful of those who tend to stay away until they need something from you. Form your community and be brave enough to be a little picky. Cherish the people you can trust, whether it’s family, co-workers or childhood friends.
3. Find Your Zen. Ease into your goals as necessary but don’t quit and don’t try to be something or someone you’re not. It’s acceptable to be inspired by others but ultimately you must stay focused on following the beat of your own drum and heart. Experiment outside of your comfort zone, try on new swag, work on your moves, but whatever you do be uniquely you.
4. Own Your Strength! Once you’ve found your voice, do the lifestyle equivalent of shouting from the rooftops every chance you get.
5. Don’t Stop. Keep Stretching! Once you’ve tasted the sweetness of success, don’t forget what it took to get you here. Reflect on the formula and define what worked and what didn’t. These same steps will give you momentum to go beyond your previous personal benchmarks and keep growing.
A little more about Mahilani Akiona…
Mahilani Akiona is an Angeleno who lives in Santa Monica, CA. She moved back to LA in 2013 for a promotion as a Human Capital Business Management Consultant for ADP which was recently rated the #1 company for Human Resource Professionals.
In addition she was named President of iWIN, International Women’s Inclusion Network, ADP’s first ever International Business Resource Group in which she encourged its adoption and creation within the company. Her passion is centered around the growth and development of women in business, with a mission to provide tools and resources to help them to reach their highest potential.
Mahilani has a B.A. in communications from Arizona State and is applying to B-School in the fall for a joint Masters Degree in Business and Engineering. In her spare time she is an adventure seeker at heart who loves to travel, a serial foodie & yogi, a game of thrones junkie who believes FOMO is a real thing.